Do not make the child as an outlet for anger. Pressures of life increasingly difficult with many demands resulted in us emotions up and down. When emotions rise and lead us angry, it fair if we vent our anger to the child? Of course, it is unfair, is not it? Well now, how do we maintain our consciousness in order no make our children as an outlet when angry?
1) focus on the consequences that would happen
If your child constantly disobeying your orders, then step back and do not force your will and inhale deeply. You can get out of the house for a moment to breathe fresh air and trying to focus and overcome the anger you are feeling.
The point should not be whining and crying your child tastes your anger. When you have felt calmer, give a little punishment to educate our children if he is not with us is still defiant.
Do not give severe punishment and torture its children. For example, do not let you yell at your child simply because it is small. Be wise parents in parenting. A good example of punishment is ordered to clear the house, bathroom or cleaning his room, but it must remain in our care to avoid things that are not desirable.
2) ask for assistance
Generally, the mothers will experience less sleep and less rest when they have a child aged less than 3 years. Do not make the condition less your fatigue as a reason to be angry. Immediately ask the help of parents, neighbors, family or friends who can be trusted to help care for your child for a minute so you can rest.
3) schedule a date with spouse
Sometimes we are too busy being parents so forget partner us. Duties and responsibilities as parents have been time to consuming and lead us to overlook the needs of our partners.
Some parents sometimes feel very angry with the child, so subconsciously imagine your days with a couple without children is disturbing.
It helps you and your partner take a moment to be alone without being bothered by children. It will make your back feel close to your partner. And it is also a sedative to overcome the anger that you feel.
Time to go home, you will be able to appreciate the existence of our children and do not feel that our children are bullies your life.
4) it must have been passed
Anger is a form of emotion, but the anger will increasingly become if you let it remain in the mind.
Maybe you think that your child is the one that bothers your life. Maybe you think that your child is selfish and does not understand you are tired after working all day. Then you look for other reasons for justifying your anger him.
Realize that it is plumb children to always want to be loved and for attention to their parents. Demand the attention of a wide variety of forms. From disturbing their parents or others.
So, remember. Lest we scold our children. All must pass. Our children will not always so. When he was great, I'm sure you'll miss the times when your child is still small.
5) improve the spirituality of self
If you are adherents of a religion, it helps if you take a moment to pray and meditate in accordance with the teachings of their respective religions to reach peace of life and eliminate anger.
This will help you in building a balanced perspective of looking at life. This is also useful as a protection for you from the anger that is excessive under any circumstances.
Benjamin franklin says: anger never happens without a reason, but the reason it is often not appropriate. Therefore keep trying to manage angry we effectively and precisely because children are too precious to be used as impingement anger.
From the above description, let us care about our children. Do not make our kids as an outlet for anger. Do not use a wide variety justification to scold our children. Our child is a gift of god the most beautiful in life.